Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I know this guy who is upset, because he feels like no one is helping him prepare for adulthood. He is 17, and his mom refuses to let him get a job, driver’s license, or car. His mom borrows money from him to do her own thing while he goes without. His family breaks promises to him, and he’s depressed. How can I help him?

Sincerely,
Wanting to Help

Dear Wanting to Help,

I feel he should just sit down and talk to his parents one by one and let them know how he is feeling. His mom probably refuses to let him do certain things, because she’s afraid that when he leaves and goes off on his own, he might never come back. So since he’s not 18 yet, she’s trying to keep him as long as possible. Also, he could try to talk to a counselor.

Sincerely,
A Friend Who Thinks You Can Do This

Dear Wanting to Help,

I think that your friend should get help from other family members that can help him get a job and a driver’s license. Before he does that, I think that he should have a talk with his mom and tell her why he should be able to do things that lead to adulthood. He should tell her that not being able to do these things could possibly affect how he lives later on.

Sincerely,
Your Friend

Dear Wanting to Help,

What!? Um no, you need to talk to this guy and tell him to talk to his mother about it. That’s not right at all. If she doesn’t want to listen, tell her to mother up! You want a job? Get a job! You want a license? Get to studying the book. If you want to do things for yourself that are positive, DO IT! How the hell does his mom want to borrow money from him if she doesn’t even let him get a job? In this life you learn to not depend on others’ promises. Promise yourself things and work towards getting where you want. You’re the only one you can really depend on. When life turns its back on you, take advantage and grab that! In other words, when it’s down hill, find the positive things.

Sincerely,
A Helping Hand