Dear Youth Ambassadors,

What do you do when someone puts pressure on you about losing your virginity? I see this happening to a lot of girls my age, so I was wondering how to deal with something like this. Some girls want to, but they are too scared to or aren’t ready. Their friends push them to do it, tell them, “It doesn’t hurt, “You can’t get pregnant,” and “You can’t get any type of disease from it.” Why are they putting all these lies in her head? In my opinion they should let her choose when she wants to have sex or not, because it’s her body, and they can’t control her.

Sincerely,
Tired of Peer Pressure

Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,

It is extremely important that you don’t give into peer pressure. These girls who are telling others about these lies most likely weren’t informed about the facts on the situation. And the truth is, losing your virginity at such a young age does come with some serious consequences. There is a very high chance that they will get pregnant or catch an STD, especially since they don’t seem to know the importance of protection. I think that adults such as teachers and parents should take time to inform teens and young adults about safe sex.

Sincerely,
A Fellow Youth Ambassador

Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,

I honestly think they want her to be “a part” of them. Sort of like “monkey see, monkey do.” The difference is this “monkey’s” getting pressured. This girl shouldn’t have to if she doesn’t want to. However, she should know that whatever she does is her doing. To prevent from peer pressure getting to your head, you need to think of the consequences. She could very well get pregnant. She could also contract a STD. This is something SHE and HER MIND decide to do, not others. Especially something like this. Be safe kids.

Sincerely,
Just Keeping It Real

Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,

I totally agree, it should be her choice if she wants to lose her virginity or not. If you are having second thoughts on a situation that means something isn’t right. Losing your virginity is a big deal, because you should cherish your body. That’s why you can’t just lose it to anybody. Whenever you want to lose it you would know, because you won’t feel pressured, or feel like you have to do this in order for someone to stay with you. And you will be the odd one out of your friends which is a good thing, because you are awesome.

Sincerely,
Your Friend