Dear Youth Ambassadors,

My mama always thinks I am starving myself. I eat just like I used to. I eat small plates. I can go four days without eating and then eat a big plate. Every time I look up I am always getting asked, “have you been eating?” or “do you want to eat?” or “can I cook something for you?” When I smoke or drink I get hungry, but that’s the only time. I remember one day my auntie and cousin came over. They were all cooking dinner for everyone. It was time to eat. Everyone got up and made plates. I was sitting playing a game and my mama called me over and forced me to eat. I told her that I wasn’t hungry. She hit me. Later that night they got my favorite food. How can I handle this?

Sincerely,
Not Hungry

Dear Not Hungry,

I think you should eat three healthy meals a day, because you need it to play sports and for school. You cannot think on an empty stomach at school.

Sincerely,
A Friend Who Cares

Dear Not Hungry,

I know where you are coming from. I could go so long without eating, then one day when I’m hungry, I’ll eat. I remember one day my auntie asked, “Do I need to get you help, because you’re not eating?” Sometimes when my uncle is around he’ll force me to eat, and if I don’t, he’ll hit me. Yes, people said, “you need to eat” or “stop starving yourself” or maybe, “there’s an easier way to lose weight.” But one day I began to eat small portions, and everyone was surprised. That really made me realize that people only want what’s best for us. We should be wanting the same.

Sincerely,
Your Friend

Dear Not Hungry,

My first piece of advice is to stop smoking and drinking. I know it’ll be hard if you’ve done it for so long. But maybe, that’s the problem. Plus if you aren’t eating for four days and getting high and drunk during the time you are eating then that’s not healthy. It’ll be hard in the beginning, but there’s nothing good coming out of it. Your mom hit you, because you aren’t eating. Maybe that wasn’t the best thing to do, but she’s doing it because she wants you to eat. She wants you to be healthy. You should want the same for yourself. Instead of getting high and drunk, you could be at IHOP getting yourself some warm pancakes with a side of eggs. You only have one body. Take care of it. Try eating more. It’ll make everyone less worried. Plus, your body will thank you. Please take care of yourself. You are lucky to have people that care about you.

Sincerely,
You’ve Got This