Dear Youth Ambassadors,
This girl that I know gets bullied all the time. She lets people talk to her any kind of way. She doesn’t say anything back, because she doesn’t like to be in drama. She focuses too much on what everybody thinks about her. She worries about people’s opinions too much. She tries talking to me about her problems. Everyone else thinks that she is a punk or that she is soft. That’s not her at all. She’s a good student and doesn’t talk badly about anyone. She gets straight A’s. She has always been different from the other kids at school. I guess the other kids think that’s a bad thing. Going into a new school year she’s starting to care less about people’s opinions and is opening up a lot more. She is happier because she can stand up for herself and she doesn’t care what other people say. How do I encourage this new attitude?
You should encourage your friend in any way you can, and tell her she should be proud of who she is. That’s good that she is starting to not care about what people think of her. You should always be comfortable with who you really are and should never be someone you’re not. Make sure you bond with her in many ways and make her laugh, because that’s what everyone needs once in a while.
A Youth Ambassador
It’s good that this girl is starting to stand up for herself and is beginning to not care what other people think about her. If you want to encourage this new attitude, I’d remind her of how she used to be and how unhappy she was back then. Remind her to keep standing up for herself and to not care what anyone thinks. If you are there for her as a support system, and encourage her to always stick up for herself, then there’s probably a better chance that she actually will keep up this new attitude.
I would confront the bullies kindly and cautiously. Remember most bullies bully people that are weak minded, because of something deep inside their heart. So just ask them if they would like to hang out. When they say yes, if they do, try to develop a bond with them emotionally to get their trust. Then ask them to stop bullying the girl.